If you see someone without a smile, give them yours and it will make their day much brighter. As you probably already know, words can have a powerful effect on us and the words we say to others do the same. In fact, words we choose to use when we deal with other people have a more lasting effect than you might imagine.When you choose to use words that are up-lifting and kind, your heart smiles, and those around you that hear your words smile inside too. Your words can truly change someone else’s life forever and yours too.
Negative and hurtful words can affect people deeper than you might imagine and can affect their entire life too. Knowing our words may have caused hurt to another person will not only lower our self-esteem but using hurtful words toward others will absolutely prevent anyone from having the kind of happy life they really want to have. How we make others feel with our words is a reflection of the kind of life we will have and how happy we will be.
Forgiveness: We all experience someone trying to hurt our feelings at times throughout our lives, this is just a fact of life, but how deeply we are hurt and how long it lasts depends on our thoughts and our reaction to what was said or done to try to hurt us. It will hurt only if we let it.
This may be one of the most important lessons grown ups wish they knew when they were young. When someone tries to hurt your feelings it is important to understand that all anyone can do is TRY. This is because no one can MAKE you feel a feeling you don’t want to feel.
When something negative happens we feel an emotion like sadness, fear or anger and, believe it or not we don’t have total control over that because this is our amazing brain using its natural ability to protect us. However, after the first BURST of emotion is when we take control with our thoughts, which will either cause more negative emotion, or we can choose to change them to thoughts that FEEL better.
When others try to control our thoughts and feelings and try to make us feel sad, angry or scared, it is usually because something is happening in THEIR own life and they may be in need of help but not finding it, or maybe they are being treated poorly at home.
Have you ever heard “misery loves company”? Well this may be a reason why some people try to make others feel bad. “If I am sad then you should be too” or “If I have no control of my life, then I can at least control yours” Okay, I know it is a lot easier to say than do, but you really can protect your feelings from being hurt by being strong minded and by knowing that you get to think for yourself about what is true or not.
So if someone says something to you that you know is not true you can feel better knowing it is untrue. However, it can be difficult to overcome humiliation or rumors that are untrue because it usually involves other people too. An easy way for people to lesson their chances for a happy life is to humiliate, embarrass or start an untrue rumor about someone else. But they can repair their chances to be happy with a sincere apology and to ask for forgiveness.
Reference: The Ultimate Kid’s Guide to Happiness – http://www.KidsCanDoAnything.com