My dear husband sent me this email today and of course I was curious to read the contents of the email especially when the author’s (Keith Matthew of selfmasterysecrets.com) opening comment is:
I thought of all my women readers and decided that this was too good not to share.
He says: “Actually, I can pretty much guarantee it. The simple fact is, men lie to women all the time . . . About little things . .. About big things . . . About things that don’t seem to matter at all . . . And a lot of women want to know WHY?
WHY can’t he just tell me the truth?
His friend Michael Fiore (he’s a nationally known relationship expert who’s helped thousands of women understand men and who even appeared on Rachael Ray) says there’s actually THREE reasons that men lie to women (and two of them are actually pretty innocent . . . here’s the first one that tends to SHOCK a lot of women.)
Michael says that men lie to women because men are SCARED of women. Not physically (not usually, though occasionally you hear about a woman going all “Bobbet” on her man.) Nope, Michael says men are scared of women’s EMOTIONS.
See, it might sound weird, but emotions are actually harder for guys to deal with and to recover from than they are for women.
According to Dr. John Gottman at the University of Washington (right here in Seattle) women can both enter and recover from extreme emotional states a LOT faster and easier than guys can.
If you think about it, it makes sense. We’ve all seen a woman burst into tears one moment only to be totally fine 5 minutes later. But when it comes to emotions, guys are a lot more “fragile.” Gottman says it’s because of evolution. Guys were evolved to be single taskers. To push everything out of their mind except the one thing they’re hunting. And because of that we’re slower to get into an emotional state and MUCH slower to get back out of it once we get there.
I like to think of it like swimming. Getting “emotional” for women is a lot like jumping off a dock into a lake. You get wet, sure. But the dock is right there and just a few seconds later you’re safe and dry. . . But for guys, “getting emotional” is like getting dropped in the middle of the ocean . . . Bobbing in the water. Surrounded by sharks. With land nowhere in sight. What does this have to do with LYING? Everything.
From a very young age, guys learn that if we tell you the truth you could FREAK OUT on us. . . FLOOD us them with scary emotions . . . And push them out in the ocean where it’ll take them hours to recover. Of course there’s other reasons that guys lie too . .. And other mysteries of men that the “guys” in your life simply never tell you about . . .
If you want to truly understand men, you should drop whatever you’re doing and go watch this amazing new video Michael Fiore has just released . . .
It gives you “X Ray Vision” into the minds of men . . . And tells you all about an astonishing (and affordable) new program Michael’s created to answer every question you’ve ever had about men and the way they think . . .
A program that tells you . . .
- What he really thinks of you (and why men are so BAD at showing a woman that he loves her.)
- Why he looks at other women, what it MEANS when he looks at another woman and what really goes through his head when he sees a hot girl walking down the street
- Why men cheat . . . and how to drain your man’s desire to cheat on you just by saying a few simple words.
- The dirty truth about a man’s sexual mind . . .why your man WANTS to be objectified and how to give him sexual thrills that will have him addicted to you.And MUCH more . . . All based on thousands of secret survey responses from real men . . . “
Would love to get feedback on the video and information provided.