2013 is coming to a close on December 31st and for many of us there will be lots of festivities with family and friends. 365 days would have passed leaving good and bad memories of events in our lives. How many of us will sit in a quiet place on old year’s night to reflect on 2013 and plan for the new year? Taking the time before going out to enjoy ourselves, will allow us to let go of sad moments, defeatist attitudes, resentments against life in general and focus on planning for a brighter, positive and prosperous 2014. If things did not work out as you would have liked, my friend Terry would say with a smile that “It is OK”. It is only those who never give up and continue to persist with their wish to find and fulfill the promise of themselves, will achieve it.
During the old year’s night exercise, re-exam your feelings towards certain situations during the year. The importance of feelings cannot be overstated. Your feelings are your greatest tool to help you manage your life. Your thoughts are the primary cause of everything. Feelings tell you immediately what you’re thinking. Think about when your feelings suddenly took a dive – maybe when you received the news of the death of a loved one or you did not get the job you wanted. Bad feelings can be categorized as depression, anger, resentment, and guilt. They do not make us feel empowered. Make a commitment to yourself to become aware of your feelings and get in tune with it. You can stop and ask yourself this question during the day: “How am I feeling?” This will allow you to become aware of how you’re feeling and will signal to you that you need to be mindful of your thoughts. Change your thinking.
So what are you feeling this moment? Take a few moments to think about how you feel. If you’re not feeling as good as you’d like to, focus on feeling your feelings inside and purposefully lift them. As you focus intensely on your feelings, with the intention to life yourself, you can powerfully elevate them. Here is an exercise to help you elevate your feelings. After reading this article, I want you to put the newspapers down, close your eyes, so as to shut out distractions, focus on your feelings inside and smile…. Yes, smile for two minutes. You have the power to change anything. You are the one who chooses your thoughts and you are the one who feels your feelings.
There are several other ways to help you when you’re feeling down and to change your emotion:
- Put on a beautiful piece of music and hum/sing along to it
- Think of a happy experience or future events to come
- Think of loved ones that make you smile and dwell on them. It maybe a joke that someone told at a gathering. Really keep the thought in your mind
You will start to feel good about yourself. Try one of the above until you find one that connects for you. Different things will shift you at different times. It only takes a minute or two of changing focus to shift yourself to thinking positive thoughts and experiencing good feelings. Don’t let your feelings control you. Control them with your thoughts.
Post: Janice Learmond-Criqui, PO Box 5145, St James